Introduction
If you Google “low self-esteem,” you’ll get over 1,600,000 articles. Google “shyness,” and you’ll get over 6,000,000 articles. People really want to know how to overcome these things. Low self-esteem and shyness are socially debilitating. They can be very difficult to overcome them. This ebook will give you some simple things to start.
Every one of us has the basic need to feel important as a human being. This first set of tips will go over a few of them and help you understand their importance.
1. Attention
We are a society that needs other people. Everyone has the basic need to give and receive attention from others. As you acknowledge this you can start to understand yourself. A great way to start is by giving attention to those around you.
2. Meaning and Purpose
We all need meaning and purpose in our lives. Think about your own. Are you a student? A mom? A dad? A son? A daughter? A co-worker? Whoever you are, as you acknowledge your purpose get excited about it.
3. Connection
We all need to feel connected to others. As you look at your life, ask yourself who you’re connected to. Here’s a partial list to help you get an idea:
• Spouse
• Friends
• Children
• Grandchildren
• Co-workers
4. Creativity
We all have need for creativity in our lives. If we do exactly the same things every day, our lives will get boring, and it can lead to depression. Make sure you frequently add something creative, even if it’s small, into your daily routine.
5. Intimacy
Intimacy is a very important human need. Babies need to be held, children need to be hugged, and adults need affection from other adults. Sometimes the search for this intimacy can become depressing, but you need not let it.
6. Control
As humans, we have a need to be in control of our own lives. Sometimes, though, it seems like life controls you. It’s during these times that you need to step back and take steps to regain control. You can do this by:
• Planning out your day.
• Choosing what you do every day.
• Tackling problems head on.
